Big Family, Bigger Heart: Jason Vance Raises Six Kids w/One on the Spectrum | Season 2 Episode 20
Join Dads in Autismland host Mark de Grasse as he sits down with Jason Vance, a father of six—including one autistic son—to share real talk on parenting, independence, and building a resilient family through love, structure, and belief in what’s possible.
In this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with entrepreneur and father of six Jason Vance, whose 21-year-old son is on the autism spectrum.
Jason shares the deeply personal and practical journey of raising a child initially diagnosed as moderately to severely autistic—who now lives independently with his grandparents and contributes daily to their small farm.
They discuss parenting philosophies, managing family dynamics with five daughters, the importance of prioritizing marriage amidst challenges, and the power of maintaining long-term dreams even when life detours.
Jason’s core belief in “raising healthy adults” shapes his family’s values and resilience. From teaching life skills to coping with public meltdowns, this episode offers insight, relatability, and inspiration for autism dads everywhere.
TOPICS COVERED
Transitioning from diagnosis to independence in autism parenting
The philosophy of “raising healthy adults” despite special needs
Balancing the demands of a large family with a child on the spectrum
Coping with public meltdowns, social judgment, and shifting expectations
Prioritizing marriage and long-term dreams as the foundation for family resilience
The emotional journey of mourning “normal” and embracing a new reality
Jason’s practical tips for building independence in autistic children
QUOTES
“Our underlying philosophy sort of goal for the kids is raising healthy adults.”
“We just always believed for more, right? That he could have a normal life.”
“You have to mourn normal.”
“We literally cooked a separate meal for him every day for his entire life.”
“It was really hard letting him go. It’s like, yes, you’re 21, but you’re probably 11 or 12 as far as like, you know, your ability and your mind.”
Every child’s autism journey is unique. This video shares one family’s personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.
